If you can go voluntarily and able to leave it might be worth a shot. they may have some ideas and hopefully they will be understanding when you say that him crying stresses you out more. They may have ideas for dealing with it and making it less plus tips for dealing with sam. I jsut re-read your post, no sleep makes things worse, getting through th day seems impossible and trying to keep on top of stuff. Beleive me I know. Maybe by going and getting more rest that will be a miracle cure too.
E is back in bed, I did the leaving him for a min or so when crying and going back in to comfort and suddenly the crying just stopped when out of the room! I went back in and put the dummy in and he has gone to sleep. Now I am worried I have broken his spirit and have threatened the attachment bond. Stupid I know. I didn't leave him long though and it wasn't very long till he went to sleep from when he started. It worked, doesn't make me feel any better though.
Luey: IMO i wouldnt worry about the possiblility of breaking an attachment bond after a few mins crying, poor james has done a lot of crying in his 6 months (with the karitane idea and in general) and i have to say he just adores me lol my mum says it all the time, no matter who is holding him his head is cranked around looking at me and smiling, she says he loves you so much that boy !
Laura: if you are uncomfortable going to a mother and baby unit then it may not be of benefit to you, my thoughts are babies are changing so often that if you manage to "teach" Sam to sleep better while in there the next week he will be doing something else anyway and you will be back at square one, as you know James has been a dreadful sleeper and i did a bit of karitane stuff with him and sometimes it worked other times it didnt and he just started sleeping 2 and 3 hours during the day by himself (but is hopeless at night), i dont know if im making any sense but what im trying to say is it wont solve all your sleep problems from now on (although it might improve them for now !) also i wanted to let you know there are patches you can buy (look a bit like nicotine patches) that numb the skin so they babies dont feel injections as much, they are called Emla and can be used from 6 months (and sam is close enough) they are around $16 for two so you put one on each thigh )or wherever you get the injections done) about one hour before injections, might take away some of your anxiety about immunisations, i use them once they are 6 months old because i hate getting them done too (even though i give the ones at birth in my job !)
Luey , I know what you mean!! But don't worry,he was just tired and went back to sleep.Ha and that coming from me!
Mel, I agree with you about the babies changing so frequently.Sam has fantastic weeks then horrid weeks.It's not really the sleep issues I was considering going in for.More for me.But still...I don't know if it would even benefit me.I guess I can always leave if I don't like it.I just feel that there isn't enough support out there for me.I have tried and tried to work all this out and to some degree I have.But I don't feel like I am coping.I'm sure it's from lack of sleep......
I did the Post Natal test again at my last MCHN appointment and scored a lot higher than I had in the past few months.The questions are quite silly though.There is one that asks 'In the last week have you thought about hurting yourself' Answers are something like "all the time' , 'some of the time' etc etc.I answered some of the time and the nurse freaked!! But it's not like I am going to do anything.Just thoughts that I would like to smash the car into a tree.They are just thoughts and I have no intention of following through with them.Does that even make sense??
I just don't know what is going through my head.I feel lost, and not like me.I feel waves throughout the day.One minute I am fine the next I feel like life has no hope.I don't know why I have to feel these things, this is not how it was meant to be.
Gosh...I have just started talking gibberish on all of you! sorry I am very tired!!I am OK.
Just want to say thank you as well to all of you for being so welcoming of me and my very selfish posts.BB and all of you have been my lifeline.xx
Hi everybodeeeeeeee did ya miss me??? My goodness what a few weeks I have had. We had our trip home to NZ and it was cold and wet. Enjoyed it though. It was great to see our family there and catch up with my girlfriends. No big raging nights on the juice but it was good none the less.
Scout was good.His little routine that he does have was completely thrown out of whack but he was happy enough with it. He was fantastic on the plane. Had a bit of a scream on the take off but after that he slept. He was almost too big for the bassinet but he obviously thought it was comfy cause he slept like a trooper. Especially on the way back again.
Wow we have some chunky monkeys in here dont we? I thought I had a heffa lump at just over 8kgs but I think he would be out boxed with some of your treasures.
In general my boy is doing well. He has his crappy days which are compensated by his absolute "I love you so much days" He is rolling heaps both ways which is really annoying actually as he is all over his cot especially when he doesnt want to go to sleep. He is also sitting unsupported. He does get the wobbles sometimes but usually when he is tired. No teeth yet either which I am pleased about.
I thought I wanted to give up the BF once we got back from NZ but now im thinking im not ready just yet so I will play it by ear. Maybe when he is sleeping through again as it is so easy to just "flop" my boob out to feed him when we are both half asleep, I cant be arsed getting up to do the bottle thing at that time of the night.
Well ladies I had better get going and do the school lunches and hang out my final load of washing (does it end??) but i have to say how much I enjoyed reading all the posts I had missed while I was away. Great effort
Laura you are most certainly welcome, we absolutely love having you and Sam with us! And I'm sure we have all felt that this thread and BB have been our lifeline at sometime. It's what we are all here for, to give, and get support. your posts are not selfish at all, I love to hear how you are going with your PND especially. I find it so interesting to hear about it from your POV and TBH, most of what you say and how you feel I know I have felt at sometime in my mothering life, so please don't feel like it's gibberish. It's real and honest and we understand
Why are the dr and mchn wanting you to go to the unit? If it's not exactly for sleep? Why don't you feel you are coping? What don't you feel you are coping with? Sorry if I seem nosy I'm curious, and like I said before, I really have honestly felt or do feel the same a lot myself. Beleive me there are times when i feel I can't cope either and I want to just run down the road! Not that i would but I feel like it!
Ooooh fluffy mail! Those Minkees sound divine, I love minkee! At night I use a BBB or BBH, with a booster in between the nappy and cover. Never had a leak. DH always complains about the smell of Jakes nappy in the morning but I haven't noticed it. Although last nights was a shocker, must be the teething, that can make their wee stink! A strip wash wouldn't hurt anyway
All-boys welcome back! Glad you had a great trip and that Scout was a trooper for you. Would love to see some pics if you get a chance?
Luey for you, I understand how you feel re the crying. But as Mel said, he will still love you I'm not one for crying, especially when I know I can make it stop and make him feel secure. You wrote: I just want to say whatever you choose you are doing an awesome job and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. What we choose to do with our children is our decision and we are the ones that deal with the consequences. And I couldn't agree more.
Mel great point about the ever changing behaviour of our bubs! And also on the Emla, never used them myself but I've heard they are good. How are your night battles going?
Catherine Jake has been difficult in the day too. I cant put him down or walk away without him crying, I wish some teeth would cut! The mixing of BM and formula sound like a good idea.
Jo glad you had a nice weekend and a lovely dinner. Makes such a difference! I also hope Isabella's results are all good too. She is doing really well, you should be proud. you are also doing a fantastic job with DH away for some long, holding the fort at home alone.
Argh!! hgotta go, Jake is awake again.....suffice to say we are NOT having a good day!! lol. BBL
Nic, LOL at Dusty's wet fart!! I think I need to be a good Mummy like you and put the pillows out around Jake, he got his first war wound today. He was sitting really good and I moved away for one second and plop, down he went and hit his brow bone on a stacking cup.
Not much here, DH and i are ok at the moment, all going well. Jake is being a rat lately, I'm convinced it's teeth though. Took him for his immunisations today but couldn't get them done as he still has a little cold and a cough. He has been very yellow in the coloring on his face lately particularly his nose but the dr said it was normal. I'm not so sure so will book him into a different dr in a week or so for his needles. He is now getting up on all fours and rocking as if he's gonna crawl but he doesn't yet. The commando is faster, lol. I'm looking forward to catching up with some girlfriends and their kids tomorrow, one has a nb, who is abour 3 weeks old.....cluck, cluck, cluck! lol. gotta get some sleep now, Jake has been sleeping until around 2:30am the last two nights so here's hoping it happens again.....
Bec: do you think Jake is starting to experience seperation anxiety and that is why he is crying when you put him down, on the weekend i went to visit my friend with 2 month old twins and she held james while i held one of her babies and james snuggled into her resting his head on her chest and then he looked up and realised he could still see me so he realised it wasnt me he was snuggling and he SCREAMED, the tears we flowing in mere seconds, so i think he is a bit clingy to me, im certainly the favourite ! im also the favourite with DD, its cute but driving me insane, daddy can't do anything, not get her dressed, run a bath etc its tiring !
last night was a slight improvement sleep wise, james still woke 3 times between 11 and 5 but he went straight back to sleep and for the last week he has required rocking that can take up to an hour and thats awful 3 times a night !! he didnt sleep well today because i had him at the dr and other things were going on so he put up a good fight tonight and im expecting him to wake any minute, he always likes a feed around 11pm no matter how long he has been down for
also like i said im sure Jake's colouring is from starting solids, i found this link for you (are we allowed to use them on BB ? Is it normal for your baby to have an orange nose? - Yahoo!7 Answers hope you can view that, if you google yellow baby and solids you will find some info about it
Laura: its hard to know what is best for you, if you go into the clinic can you take DH along too for support, i guess its worth a try if you can leave whenever you want to
as for me i had my test done, results apparently arent consistant with carpal tunnel, specialist who breezed in briefly said it must be muscular or ligament pain as pain isnt usually a symptom of carpal tunnel, when i get this pain its REALLY bad (and thats coming from a woman who got to the hospital 20 mins before my boy was born so i can tolerate pain lol) so not sure what will happen now, i dont get it bad often but when i do its excruciating and no medications help and last about 24 hours, i know it will stop when i stop breastfeeding but that doesnt help now......
Laura, you are definitely not speaking gibberish & a lot of it I can relate to as well. Trisillian sounds very similar to the mother & baby unit as it does concentrate on lot's of different things depending on what you need help with. I would mainly be going for the sleep thing but who knows what they might discover when I get there I wonder if it is the right thing for me to go for a few reasons. As Mel pointed out they are going through so many changes ATM that can really throw them out so I don't know if sleep training will help with that? I don't know if I can handle controlled crying which I am pretty sure they do, I don't know if I can cut out feeds or structure feeds more - which I also think they do. I want to give them a go & I don't have to stay if I don't want to but I wonder how long do I give their techniques a go, if I don't like them, to see any results?
Luey I also worry about breaking that trust that I am working so hard to build up again. I did some things when D was little that I really regret & wish I hadn't done, I read Robyn Baker's baby love book which talks about avoiding eye contact during the night feeds & before sleep time & I did that for a few days & then D wasn't looking at me through the day & I realised what I was doing was soooo sooo wrong, I also left him a few times to cry for over 30 mins - out of sheer desperation but a tiny bubba how could I do that So it is really important to me that I don't do anything to jeapardise (sp) the trust we have built up. But Mel you are right as well will a few minutes of crying really hurt?? I just don't know
Hi Hayley, I knew I missed someone the other day. Are you feeling better? for the teeth, it makes it easier to deal with the crankiness knowing that teeth are coming through. I understand about not knowing who me is. I have gone through all these years secretly jealous of people with kids cause when you have kids you have a sense of purpose & reason for being here, at least that is how it seemed to me. I didn't want to have kids for that reason but was hoping when the time come that it would fill that .....something.... don't know what it is but it hasn't so off to the drawing board again, that probably hasn't helped but I empathise with you.
Mel, don't you love specialist, you pay all this money for them to do j@ck**** & spend so little time with you. Have you thought of trying accupucture or something like that? I think they must be getting to a clingy stage as D is starting to reject DP & I doesn't like me to be too far from him. Ahh the phases, hope this one passes quickly though The b/f sounds frustrating for you ATM, I hope it settles soon, biting & scratches are not fun. I thought D was bad as he has started to pump his arm or move his legs while feeding but he sounds great in comparison.
Bec, the pillows are from experience, I think the reason he sits so well is because he has a bouncer that has pictures of red cats, blue dogs, yellow birds etc... & when he wasn't sitting in it he always wanted to eat it so I started to sit him in front of it because he could hold onto the buckles etc... but would sometimes loose his balance. So hence pillows are always handy. Just when I think I can start to get rid of them he goes down plonk & it is a carpet square on tiles so it isn't very soft poor kid.
Hi Allboys, welcome back. Glad the trip to NZ went well. In terms of b/f I'm hoping to make it in baby steps to 12 mnths so my next goal is 9 mnths but the teeth thing scares me.
Catherine, you might have to get DH to give him the bottles until he is use to them as they can get fussy with when they can smell your milk apparently.
Jo, glad DH was home for the weekend, sounds like it was nice to have everyone at home. Sounds like Isabella is really starting to put on the weight which is great for the EEG scan.
Time for TU, we definitely have 1 tooth & I think I can feel the edgs of another tooth coming through. It must be really painful for them cause the other day I went for walk with him in the pram & we were nearly home & he would stop crying (he usually likes the movement of the pram especially the bumpy bits) in desperation I put my fingers in his mouth & he shut up instantly poor thing, I am going to have to make sure I have some bonjella with me at all times JIC. I defintely jinxed our sleeping so the Sun night he was up from 1.30 until about 4.30 before finally falling asleep exhauted in my arms & then last night he was awake from about 2 until 3.30 am, I thought it was bad that he woke for feeds but at least he doesn't want to play & is happy to dream feed but this is absolutely shocking. We did go to sleep this morning from about 7 until 10.30 so that was something. I am definitely glad for napisan, lot's of soaking going on here. I'm a bit shocked at how big he is but we have some giants in the family & DP is pretty tall so he must be a throw back or something gawd love him.
I finally made it out of the house & to another mothers group today that is run by the hospital so it is the info sessions at the moment. Not to sure about the mums but they are probably as shy as I am so I will keep going & see how it goes.
Well it is that time of the morning again & I best be off. See ya lovely ladies another time
super quick post from me this morning, Mel i had thought separation but I don't think it is. He is fine a lot of the time (like now) where I disappear and get stuff done while he plays on the floor. But just when the teeth are niggling he doesn't like to be put down. All normal of course and I would want cuddles too thanks for that link, I looked at it, hopefully it should fade now we are just giving him what we are having.
gotta run supposed to be going out today but I was up with Jacob last night for ages and then Chloe had a horrible cough too.......YAY not sure if we'll go.
HI girls!! WOW you guys have been busy!! Good to hear that everyone is doing well.
Cohen had his first solid food yesterday....well semi solid. He has pureed carrot! WOO HOO!!! He LOVED it! He had his mouth open waiting for more as soon as he swallowed what he already had in his mouth, I couldn't believe it. It was so much fun, he had it all over himself from head to toe. He even tried to feed himself. He also had a rusk, what a change from a few days ago, it is amazing. Just goes to show all they need is time huh? It concretes the fact for me that I can't force anything on him (not that I did) but that he will do everything in his own time.
Not sitting unsupported yet, only rolling one side...the right, no rolling back onto his back, no signs of teeth as yet and still wrapping him to got to sleep. Oh well.....I'm hapy to have him as my "Little" baby for as long as he wants to be.
I'm sure Cohen is 10kg. He is in size 0 and some size 1's just depending on the brand of clothing. The suit he is wearing at the moment says 12mths!!! Holy cow! What a heffa!
Had better get to doing some house work. All I seem to do is put it off. Naughty!
Talk soon
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rustygirl - I hear you on the housework. I have a massive pile of ironing starint at me.
Laura - How are yo utoday? Hope last night was better
Mel - Ithink I have read too much. I know logically that a few mins of crying, not lots and more a whingey cry 'won't hurt'. When he is distressed I don't leave him, unless I need a break. I read Pinky McKay's sleeping like a baby, and it is a good book but it has scared me of leaving him to cry at all because I will break attachment bond and cause baby depression. There are some real horror stories in there. Grrr doesn't matter what I try it still takes an hour for him to get to sleep of a morning. Maybe we should leave him up longer but he is so whingey and unhappy. How was last night? My little man thinks 5am is wake time. I keep putting him back to bed and dummy back in, after trying feeds etc and go back to bed myself. I am not encouraging that one.
all boys- glad you had a good trip.
Robbo - Yay for teeth. Still no more here, I think I see some but then they go again.
Hi Bec - Hope all in your household are better soon
hi there ladies! sorry i've not been in more often to post, just trying to keep things in line at home. I've been trying to do something 'extra' every day, just to get the house back in order and get some spring cleaning done. I finally got around to cleaning some windows that had mildew on them after the winter .
Jake is a ratbag again today, I think he's in the process of dropping his early morning sleep. yesterday he didn't go back to bed until 11am and then I had to wake him at 1:30pm to go to the MCHN, and he NEVER sleeps that long in the day. Today he had had maybe 45 minutes all up until he crashed around 2pm. I'm hoping he'll have a massive sleep. He's still so good though, doesn't get all crabby, just spits it now and then and as soon as he is given attention he is fine. So it's more of a hassle for me than him!
Hayley nice to hear from you as always! You must be SO busy, and from what i read on your blog you are also into 'cleaning' mode like me! Yay for Ari's teeth, he is growing so nicely and you are right, he has the biggest infectious smile! How are things going with you?
Nic, sorry Dusty wasn't very compliant with all your sleep hopes! It never repeats itself does it? I had a great night with Jake the other night but last night wasn't terrific, was up from 3am-4:30am with him . Most nights when he wakes I can just put him in with me and he feeds and sleeps no problems and with minimal interruption to my sleep.
Rustygirl hooray for the solids! You are totally right, you can't force anything on them, but when they do take to it it's usually with a passion! Jake is getting so good at eating, when I give him a piece of bread for dinner (with avacado or banana or something on it) not much of it gets on the floor or in his crutch anymore! it all goes in!
Luey ironing?? What's that? I DO NOT iron in this house unless we are going somewhere special. Gosh, my days would be SO long if I ironed!! lol. You are a better housewife than me On the crying, I really believe if you aren't comfortable with any parenting 'tips' or styles, then don't do it. You are the best judge of what works, and it has to work for both of you. No good letting E cry it out and getting him to sleep if it's going to make you feel like you have abandoned him in some way. It's also no good rocking him to sleep if it only frustrates you. Not much help I know but I've learnt 3x over now, just do what you can handle and don't let anyone criticise you for it. I'm sure heaps of people would say I'm wrong to put Jake to sleep on the boob and to bring him into bed to co-sleep and feed. Sure it doesn't always work perfectly, but it suits us and that's all that matters.
ahhh....yes....Luey! Of course it all gets difficult when you aren't happy with the way things are but you don't know what else to try. You've just gotta try and pick and choose which bits of advice you are comfortable/happy with.
Mel, hi can't think of much to say as I usually speak to you the most! Hope James is keeping up his change in habits for you.
All-boys I haven't had any AF here to speak of. I have a Mirena in so had a fair bit of spotting but now I've had nothing for ages. I don't know if it's the BFing or the Mirena. I also have guilty mother days where i feel terrible for being angry with the kids because I'm tired. I've been making a real effort lately to be a lot calmer myself (I get a real temper with the kids!) and it seems to be going better. Ben especially is being a really angry little boy at times and me being angry back just isn't helping things only escalating them. How do you cope with the 4 kids? I'm still thinking I'd like another but I'm just not 100% sure yet.....
Catherine glad Flynn went well with his needles. We went to get Jake's done but he was too unwell. Glad Flynn is taking the bottle for you now, I don't think there's a problem propping the bottle up on pillows as long as you are always there to supervise . Did you go back to work? I was thinking about this the other day and I thought you said you went back for a couple of days a week?
Macca glad to hear all is well now in your camp. Sounds like a shocker of a week though! I LOVE the smooches too, Jake is much the same, it's just too cute! and Will with 4 teeth!! what a champ! i would have ditched one of the baptisms, it's all a bit much really!! It's ok to want to have guests there to witness the occasion but it loses the sentiment when it's all about the pressies!!
Laura glad to hear from you, I am thinking of you often! My best friend was telling me of a friend of hers who is doing it tough ATM. She has a 2yo not long diagnosed with Autism, a NB who has some issues with her legs and on top of it all she has PND also. Makes me think of you and how much tougher this whole mothering job is for you guys. I really think Mums with PND need a medal! I feel so honoured that you can and do let us in on it all and I just hope wel all help in some small way.
Hmm....who have I missed?? Reenie??? Where are you girl?
Ok I'm off, I've got all my work done for the night, about the get Chloe into bed (she slept this afternoon), do some nappy hunting (TOO addictive) and then hit the hay myself. I'm HOPING Jake will have a good night tonight
Hi all
Bec- Thanks for your advice, Although I always try for him to settle himself first I do find i end up giving him the boob to settle sometimes. It makes me feel better that I am not the only one that sometimes puts E to sleep on the boob. WE don't co-sleep. I don't let him cry it out at all, Usually I run to him as soon as he starts to cry and try and comfort him in the cot. If that doesn't work I do pick him up and give him the boob. I am starting to leave him a bit longer to see if he will settle himself, like he did the other day but it doesn't always happen. It takes ages for him to go to sleep, he fights it so much, regardless if I watch his tired signs. He often lays there and plays with his toys or stares into space. I hae been wondering about dropping night feeds, as I sometimes feed him 2 hourly overnight. He knows what he wantsn though and I think once solids are firmly established then I will think more about it. We have worked out that if DH gives him a bottle at 11/1130 he will sleep till 3, then anything is possible after that. The only problem is when DH needs to go to bed earlier or E feeds at 930-10 so is too early to give him a dream feed. I notice it the nights we don't do that. He feels better too I think as he gets lots of solid sleep.
Jo - Hope you have had a good weekend. I can't believe it's sunday. Where does it go? Weekends are no different for me though. I still have to wake when his royal monkeyness does. DH is sometimes around a bit more which is nice. Yesterday I sort of craked it, when E wouldn't sleep, was fighting it and DH got him up ( for the third time) and said 'I am going to bed, you do what you want with him'. Ithink DH cuddled him to sleep , oh well they got their bonding time.
Laura - Glad that you have had some sleep and Sam is feeling better. E is only starting back on solids after me taking him off them after being constipated on monday, so didn't have any. Tuesday he was fine and he had some sweet potato and didn't have any till yesterday as he had a funny tum, a bit unwell but every time he ate it would go straight through him. HE had a bit of a temp, only 37.3, I didn't even give him panadol, for once HAHA. WIth solids for now I am just treating it as fun and if he wants it, good if not that is fine. Loves his rusks though.
MAcca - poor Will. All our bubbas have been sick.
Hi to everyone else
Sorry so long, will maybe write more later, NEED SLEEP. I hope E has gone to sleep, he has been really quiet in his cot for a while. He did fall asleep on the floor yesterday, with a dirty nappy. being the neglectfull mama that I am I left him there. tHere was NO WAY I was waking him. I figured he was comfy.
Sorry luey, re-read my post and went a little OTT on you!
Jake has not been sleepin in the day at all!! He's not grouchy really but I just hate knowing he hasn't slept! Today he slept about 1.5 hrs from 8:30am (so up at 10am) but then only had about 20 minutes all up from then until he crashed around 7:30pm. That's a long time! I don't know what's going on with him! He hardly ate at all today and BF SO much but never for long. It must be teeth right??
just a quick one from me, will do personals another time
our babies are all so different, big difference in their weights and sleep patterns etc Bec James has slept about 6 hours on and off during the day a 2.5 hour sleep and 2 other almost 2 hour ones, will be interesting to see how the night goes, he wasnt great last night !
but the night before he only woke at 3 am and the night before that slept 1045pm-0545 so things are on the up and up i hope, he is back on the boob (never off completely just not interested) and behaving much better, he was nearly botted it off last weekend so he came good in the nick of time lol
Catherine: great pics of Flynn, i cant believe how big he looks and so grown up sitting up ! and standing too, wow !
we dont sit let alone stand lol no teeth and no rolling !
Macca: how are you and Will doing, is he all better now ? poor little thing, he must have felt awful, have you managed to catch up on any sleep ?
Hayley: yay for Ari and his teeth, he is such a smiley little bub (have you had him weighed recently ?)
i managed to sneak a few personals in, hi to everyone else !
I'm feeling much better now, sorry for the whinge.
Catherine, I give Jake orange in eighths, so i cut it in half, then each half in quarters, peel the skin off and give it to him. I do have to keep an extra eye on him though and pull it out once it's all stringy and he's sucked all th juice out! Well done on the cloth too You will notice a difference in your hip pocket! Even if you manage one cloth nappy a day that's 365 you have saved from landfill too. I used a terry flat for the first time today on Jake. I much prefer my MCN, much easier to put on a squirming baby!
HELLOOOOO!!
So sorry I have been absent so long. What's it been like 2 months? SLACK! Well in my defense I have only just gotten back online properly so I hope you haven't thought bad of me too much p
Hope you and the babies are all doing well! I will email some photos shortly when my ADSL kicks in. Here's the scoop anyways: We moved into our beautiful new house on the 12th of August. Are soooo much happier here- yes even my stubborn husband who didn't want to move in the first place!! Can't believe we almost divorced over moving, but he really is much happier too. Which makes me want to kick him up the claccka and say "Seeeee!" LOL
The phone line took 6 weeks to get connected because Telstra have a bunch of slack jawed yokels working for them. Looong story but finally here we are. Now I am waiting for ADSL and I will be able to upload pics for you guys. Am on wifi atm and it powerful sucks. Have been watching all your little bundles turn into chubba bubbas ALong with my own. Although Seraya is still in some 000's and has a lot of room to spare in 00's. She is quite small. Am getting her 6 month needles this arvo and will weigh her then. I think she is about 7kgs. A nice little package. She is so much smaller then her big heffa sister was. India was about 10kgs at 6 months!! Into 0's and 1's! She was a buddha obese baby!
So I am enjoying still being able to carry Seraya around quite comfortably and cuddle her with ease. Yes she is crawling ( I think she was doing that when I last posted) But I have managed to slow her down by sticking her in the jolly jumper and her play station. She is trying very hard to squeeze out "Dada and Mama." She did say "Dada" at 4 months but never did it again. lol. She is cutting her bottom two teeth. They are poking through quite a bit but not fully out. Oh and a bummer of a thing- she has excema!! India has it too along with bad asthma and allergies. I have a feeling that that hers is unrelated to asthma or allergies though. Since it is just confined to the sides of her beautiful little face. But yes I always have to later her up and make sure she doesn't scratch. She has woken up with blood all over her before because of the scratching which made me upset. So she is miss mittens at bed time. As for her sleeping, she still sleeps right through TG! Goes down at about 9:30pm and sleeps until 9:30, but amazingly will lay in her bed without crying until we go and get her. I can't understand how well behaved she is. Whenever she wakes up she will lay there for hours before she starts to whinge that she is hungry. Her tummy will be rumbling when you pick her up but she doesn't make a peep! Strange child! But a good one! Oooh and she looooves her solids. She probably only has 3 bottles max a day but I can't force any more into her so the solids are starting to help beef her up a bit. Doc's aren't worried as she is gaining, just slowly. She follows me. I was a 6lb baby and always tiny for my age. I kind of like having a petite sized baby this time. It was like carrying round a pre schooler with India.
As for me, I was starting uni as you all know, but because of that nasty stalker business I ended up deferring. Am doing voice over work now for some radio stations and am returning back to part time work just for something to do. Am interviewing this week for some account exec roles. Well I am not even gonna bother reading the last 50 pages of posts to catch up. If you could just fill in the blanks a little like I did,that would be much appreciated! I have missed you gals and catching up on the baby buzz!
Nice to be back!! xxoo
He has his crappy days which are compensated by his absolute "I love you so much days" He is rolling heaps both ways which is really annoying actually as he is all over his cot especially when he doesnt want to go to sleep. He is also sitting unsupported. He does get the wobbles sometimes but usually when he is tired. No teeth yet either which I am pleased about.
your posts are not selfish at all, I love to hear how you are going with your PND especially. I find it so interesting to hear about it from your POV and TBH, most of what you say and how you feel I know I have felt at sometime in my mothering life, so please don't feel like it's gibberish. It's real and honest and we understand 
for you, I understand how you feel re the crying. But as Mel said, he will still love you 
I wonder if it is the right thing for me to go for a few reasons. As Mel pointed out they are going through so many changes ATM that can really throw them out so I don't know if sleep training will help with that? I don't know if I can handle controlled crying which I am pretty sure they do, I don't know if I can cut out feeds or structure feeds more - which I also think they do. I want to give them a go & I don't have to stay if I don't want to but I wonder how long do I give their techniques a go, if I don't like them, to see any results? 
So it is really important to me that I don't do anything to jeapardise (sp) the trust we have built up. But Mel you are right as well will a few minutes of crying really hurt?? I just don't know 
for the teeth, it makes it easier to deal with the crankiness knowing that teeth are coming through. I understand about not knowing who me is. I have gone through all these years secretly jealous of people with kids cause when you have kids you have a sense of purpose & reason for being here, at least that is how it seemed to me. I didn't want to have kids for that reason but was hoping when the time come that it would fill that .....something.... don't know what it is but it hasn't so off to the drawing board again, that probably hasn't helped but I empathise with you.
I'm hoping to make it in baby steps to 12 mnths so my next goal is 9 mnths but the teeth thing scares me.
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I DO NOT iron in this house unless we are going somewhere special. Gosh, my days would be SO long if I ironed!! lol. You are a better housewife than me 
can't think of much to say as I usually speak to you the most! Hope James is keeping up his change in habits for you.
I feel so honoured that you can and do let us in on it all and I just hope wel all help in some small way.
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