Alison, no way are you a bad person!!!! I would move heaven and earth to stay home with Darcy. We even thought about selling our unit and renting so I could, but it's just not an option. Could you not both work part time? The thought of someone else looking after Darcy and me missing out makes me feel sick too. Even if it is DH. I'm lucky I can do 3/4 hours in two nights, but I'm still worried DH will just let her cry cos he doesn't have the patience or the tolerance to settle her, and then that will make it worse for me the rest of the week. I also know he'll expect me to still do everything AND do night work, even though he has the next 2 weeks off and has told me he plans to spend it in front of the TV!
Sorry that turned into my rant didn't it? But NO WAY should you feel bad for feeling like that. Ultimately I guess there isn't a lot we can do about it and just have to make the best of a bad situation.
What year are you going to teach Alison?
Which makes me ponder....I only have to do a one year conversion to teaching. If I did that, and I moved to another state, do your qualifications transfer???? I so don't want to have to go through another police accademy.