DM I'm so sorry for the loss of your father and sorry for misinterpreting your post I know it's not the same but my dad lives interstate and suffers from terrible depression at times. Unfortunately he is not well with his depression at the moment and has yet to see his new grand daughter, my mum has been to visit me twice but unfortunately dad has no interest at the moment which is very disappointing. Like I said, no where near the same thing but I do still worry about Leila not having her grandfather around.

Thanks for the advice about DH. It is so hard to say things without sounding like you are telling them what to do but I think you are right, I should just leave DH to it and let him figure things out for himself or come to me for advice if he needs it.