i dont think you can or will ever be happy with who you leave them to, as in deciding that you are facing the fact that you have died and wont be with your kids ever again no one will parent them the same as you would have....

it horrible and a nightmare to face. but its just not fair to not have a plan in place if something did happen.

DH and i set a date we had to decide by, it stopped the merry-go-round confusion.

we did decide on my parents as 4 is just too many to give to another family and mum and dad would move into our house so the kids life could continues with out a move. we also have life insurance so that would pay for a nanny to help mum and dad out seeing they are older.

what about your SIL living at your house??
its just such a tough decision hey....
glad im not the only one who has gone around in circles thinking about it....

nah i just dont think i could trust SIL to actually do a decent job parenting.
i know no-one will ever raise her the way we would like to but she just isnt cut out to be responsible for a child at this stage.

Crumpet: Just don't die, I have no idea who i'd leave MJ with- cos no one would parent her the way I would like.


Afm, Just so tired feeling ****ty anyway and MJ decided she wanted to stay awake til 5AM!!! i'm just so exhausted- I was so ready to give up last night I just didn't know what else to do . Glad she finally went to sleep! Just had breakfast (at midday!)and about to have a shower. Just feel so weak and tired. She had been sleeping really well until last night too so not sure what was up. Now I feel bad cos I think I didn't wake up much after that to feed her even when she was crying But I was out to it, and not sure how long she'd been crying before i'd woken up. But I did feed her again at 7am.
im hoping to avoid it if i can! i agree no one will ever do it the way i will and that makes it so much harder!

hope u can get some better sleep happening soon!

crumpet, your date nite is gay, lol!! I'm jealous! I wish I could muster up the energy to spend some quality time with DH. But with not getting mush sleep and having at least one child on me all day the last thing I want at the end of the night is someone else on me and wanting something from me, lol! I'm hoping once DS2 starts sleeping better, we can get back some us time. Yay, @ getting the go ahead for #2!! I waited for 2yrs to get the nod for #3. Just when I had given up and gave away all of my baby things and maternity clothes he said yes...
I have no people that I have actually asked to look after my kids if anything were to happen to us, though I have two people in mind, my SIL and BIL, or our best family friends (DH's best friend and wife). I guess we should really talk about it and put it in writing or something...actually we need to change our wills too....

OK, gotta go my me time is up apparently...DH is 'over' the baby...(I was over him at 3am too, but I had to keep on keeping on...)
was a pretty gay effort but as i feel more confortable we will leave her but just not yet..... oh and dont worry there was no sexy time involved i got out of it telling him my stitches were hurting! lucky he has no idea that after 10 weeks there should be no pain there at all!

we are going to make a appt with a solicitor soon to get it all sorted out.....

dont u love it when ur DH is "over" the baby, never mind we get over the baby at night or during the day!

AFU: poor summah is still blocked up in the head....
ive tried everything, steaming her in the bathroom, vaporiser, chest rub, snot sucker, panadol.... is there anything else u mummies recommend i can try??

she is still happy and sleeping well, no change there just loads and loads of snot!