I think we were going to move There isn't a formal job offer yet but should be here in the next couple of weeks. DH has already told work because they were pressuring him for dates for a conference in Canada and he most likely won't be there for it. I keep bursting into tears at the thought of leaving everyone lol. Not coping very well really. This isn't what I want to do but there is no way that we can stay because DH really wants to do it and my life would become very unpleasant very quickly if I said no. So probably in the April holidays after Easter I will be packing up my life and taking my crumbly marriage and dubious mental health down the the far reaches of nowhere to start all over again. Will have to work on being positive for the kids. W has a really good friend at school and it will be very upsetting for him to leave. A loves her friends but I think the g-parents will trump that. They don't know yet.
Sorry for the pity party. Today is my anniversary and I look at my wedding photo hanging on the wall and want to ***** slap some sense into that stupid girl lol
Oh sweetie. I feel for you. This could be me in 6 months time too (except minus the bit about family support & a payrise). But you know what, it is what it is. Write down all your options (even the unpleasant/unusual ones) on a piece of paper and decide which ones are the ones you're prepared to run with. Then make your own choice - even if it's choosing the least **** option. Trust me, that one step will help you connect with whatever the year is going to bring in a more positive way. Or, as I like to say, IT COULD BE WORSE. I know from my own life experience that there *will* be new friends, new opportunities, new good times in the new place - you just have to sustain feeling uncomfortable for a little while through the transition. You can do this! xxx
Oh Arte I totes feel for you...that was where we were at with our move. kinda backed into a corner as DH was absolutely hating the city. I kept putting off any potential move and tried and tried to make it work while we were there, but in the end, he was so hating it that it was becoming really unpleasant at home...every.little.thing would annoy him (from the way the house looked, to the architect plans, to the bricks, to the kids playing on the grass, to the plants i bought yada yada. it was so gross.
not sure that the move was/is a good idea, but it has saved our marriage for the interim! I like it well enough but i was happier where i was and i have to be careful to not let resentment cloud my judgement on this place (because it really is a lovely town and the house is just sublime).
An emu...that could be cool. one of our neighbours emus got out the other day...they do that apparently. in many respects they remind me of goats. cool, but another child in the house hahahaha
Yeah, that is what it is coming down to Cass. DH wants to go and I can't survive the marriage if he doesn't get his way. Already any voiced opposition has led to the "you are selfish, you only think of yourself" rant. It will only go downhill from there. And it looks like country life is impractical for school/kindy runs so we will be in a house in town. No emu Don't know if I can bottle up my resentment this time (about the move in general, not just the emu lol).
In answer to your question, Arte, nowhere and anywhere. The axe could fall at any time, if you know what I mean. Last year was particularly horrible while we waited something like 5 months to find out if we had to move somewhere we didn't want to go. My resentment has topped out too. It is what it is.
I hope everyone's having a great weekend. I'm celebrating (on the inside) because E's "shark tooth" (the one with the new tooth growing in behind it) has finally fallen out, saving us from a repeat trip to the dentist to have it forcibly removed. *insert gappy grin*
MD, that totally sucks living never knowing when or where you might be packed off to. That would be a constant bit of stress to carry around, popping up in your mind every time you make a longish term plan etc. I would hate that. As you may have guessed, I don't do all that well with change lol
Lucky the tooth came out, forcibly removed doesn't bode well for future dental trust. W's wiggly has stopped wiggling! It is never going to come out!
Spent a few days crying into some tragic 80's power ballads and am now feeling much better about the whole moving thing lol.
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There isn't a formal job offer yet but should be here in the next couple of weeks. DH has already told work because they were pressuring him for dates for a conference in Canada and he most likely won't be there for it. I keep bursting into tears at the thought of leaving everyone lol. Not coping very well really. This isn't what I want to do but there is no way that we can stay because DH really wants to do it and my life would become very unpleasant very quickly if I said no. So probably in the April holidays after Easter I will be packing up my life and taking my crumbly marriage and dubious mental health down the the far reaches of nowhere to start all over again. Will have to work on being positive for the kids. W has a really good friend at school and it will be very upsetting for him to leave. A loves her friends but I think the g-parents will trump that. They don't know yet.
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