Ali - I am so very sorry about your friend and her loss. As you might remember from previous posts, my cousin (who I am extremely close to) lost her first chidl while I was pregnant with E. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think about baby Will. THe most important thing to rememver is not to be scared of her - sometimes people don't know what to say, so they just unintentionally ignore.

J's surgery went well today, although he is very sore and distressed at the moment. He is still in hossy. DH staayed with him