Oh Ali, I am so sorry to hear your news. How heartbreaking. You know when I was reading it I was thinking of Tracy and Milana too.

It is great that you have been able to provide some measure of comfort to your friend. I think Meg got it right - don't be scared of her, don't ignore her by trying to "give her space". Sounds like you are finding the best way to help her - I'm really proud that you are being there for her, what a blessing you must be to her at this tough time.

Maybe tell her about BB as well? It might help to talk to some others who have experienced a late loss. Or it might not.

Big hugs, you poor thing.

RIP little Zara. What a beautiful name for what I'm sure is a beautiful little girl and a gorgeous, precious little angel.

PS - please don't apologise to me. You do what you need to do.