I'm glad to know that I am not the only one like this! Not that I want other people to be like this, but you know what I mean! I had three 2nd degree tears - one peri and two labial tears and omg it hurt like hell the first time we DTD after Claire was born. Its still quite uncomfortable and we need lots of lube still (i hate lube - it makes me itchy) and have to take it slow or else I feel like I am giving birth all over again and that wasnt a sexy feeling for me. Actually, I remember the MCHN saying that when you are brestfeeding, you dont make as much of your own natural lubricant and that is why you often need some KY or similar. Anyone else been told that? I have no idea where my sex drive has gone too. I suppose it doesnt help that as soon as we "do anything" Claire almost always wakes up. Good form of contraception she is. But yeh, I flinch as well and I never used to do that. Hoping I will go bck to normal soon. I feel bad for DH, but he says its ok and he understands and that he isnt annoyed and so on.