DH actually got his phone out and started looking through his numbers... I'm glad the appropriate number is only in my phone - things would certainly have been interesting at work tomorrow if he had done anything. I'm a little furious now too, I have enough troubles trying not to blame myself, where the hell does a teacher get off trying to play doctor and telling me why I lost my baby?!?!

Last year one of the other teachers at the school was going through IVF and had several miscarriages... eventually she decided to take a leave of absence for this year, was put on bed rest and is now substantially through a pregnancy that is actually working. I think the person in question is sitting there thinking that what happened for her is happening to me. Bed rest isn't going to stop an immune response. Bed rest isn't going to change the outcome if the baby has a chromosomal problem. Bed rest may help an incompetent cervix, but it appears that my body has more of a problem letting go than holding on.

This is certainly getting me fired up to fight... there's no way in hell I'm going to calmly walk away and take leave without pay! I may use the majority of my full pay sick days each year, but there's a whole bunch of half pay sick days accumulated, and I'll be using every single one of them before I quietly walk away! If that school is going to keep trying to screw me over, I'm going to get everything I can out of them first!

I'm starting to wonder if he was actually trying to provoke me a bit... he'd have seen that sort of thing in me before - to pull me out of depression, give me something to fight against. I'm just not sure now whether I'm fighting the school, or fighting infertility.

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