BW, I am sorry that the work situation doesn't seem to be improving, it seems those comments are quite hurtful and insensitive...are they coming from your students or your colleague or management? If they are from the students, like you said, they are quite stressed right now, so maybe don't take it too hard, they are teenagers ...and stressed teenagers, they think they know everything but they really don't ...however if they are coming from the management, I think you should definately need to straight things up...although I don't know exactly how...

But one thing I do know is "Don't make the decision right now"! Sometimes work gets me as well, it feels like a huge big brick on my chest and I feel I am overwhelmed, but I am trying to tell myself that I am not going to make any decision now because I am so upset or angry or stressed...wait the feeling pass or give it a couple of days to think it over, then you will know you are not making an emotional decision, especially considering the cost involved in IVF (unfortunately we do live in a material world, how I wish we can just walk away with all these and tell them 'sorry you are not good enough for my hobby)...

Have a chat with DH tonight, get all your feelings out, talk it through and think it overnight, see if you still feel the same tomorrow morning...no one is rushing you to make decision...if they say those things trying to make you feel worthless, myabe what you can do is just the opposite -- ' Not letting them to"