heartbreaking decision

[Lisa]

Braveheart.
I agree with Rach, if you do decide to see your baby, take some photos. This is the one huge regret I have in regards to Noah. I couldn't bring myself to take photo's of him because I was still in denial that everything had happened (Found out about his abnormalities and delivered him in a week total)... so I got the midwives to take photo's of him. I kept the disposable camera here until I felt ready to see his pics. On what should have been his 2nd birthday, I got his photos developed, and I was so saddened that they only took 2 photos of him... I wish I had more. I wish I had some of me and my DH holding our precious son.
I can fully understand the apprehension in not knowing if you want to see your baby or not, I was very similar... I was worried that Noah would be freaky, alien looking... but he was beautiful... in every way he was gorgeous... I could see many similarities between him and my older children, and he had a lot of mine and my husband's features. When Harrison was born, it was very much like looking at a full term version of Noah. I am so glad I got past my apprehension and held my baby... though I totally understand why some people don't. A friend of mine didn't, and as much as she felt it was right for her, she does regret it now, although she does have pictures of her baby girl.
Only you can know what is right for you.
Thinking of you sweetie. I will keep you in my thoughts and in my heart.


Skye - I think it may have been different 20ish years ago in regards to registering the birth... my friend had a SB at 21 weeks and she only had to register her birth because her baby took a breath, which then made her a baby, not a foetus back then.