i will thinking of you too, but i know it is so much easier to say than believe it - but please do not blame yourself. I am still trying to find reasoning behind my loss at 17 weeks in nov 07. our baby died when i was exposed to a common community virus that could've been caught as easily as someone coughing on me. I work in retail, my kids go to child care, I am surrounded by people all the time, my mind automatically thought of anyone who was sick etc around me. So i have had to try to stop myself from going there as it creates a situation that we think we had control over but ultimately don't, for whatever heartbreaking reasons!
Do NOT listen to anyone who slightly puts blame there, you and your DH have to look after yourselves at this time and find support in people who will not offer you any negativity. If you need to, look at counselling, just to filter through your thoughts with an outside party in a more productive way to your healing, i am lucky to have amazing support at my hospital but look elsewhere if you think you need it. It is hard enough, please take care...x