My Story

**chris** · January 2nd, 2008, 10:13 PM

Hi Natters
I am so sorry to hear about your loss..

What your mother wrote you was lovely, and so was the poem (and so true it is)

Some Drs say 6 months to wait before TTC because of the risk of comlpications after a m/c , D&C and the op you had. Take it month by month and see how you heal physicaly and emotionaly.

Your story is a little like mine as I also lost clots before I m/c and
my baby was stuck in my cervex also and it is very painful.
You did not do anything wrong and didn't cause the m/c by shopping, what probably caused it was the op for the cysts on your overies, so it is not your fault in any way. So please don't feel guilty!!!

Take Care
Chris

**mollycat** · January 3rd, 2008, 05:17 AM

Hi Natters,

sorry for your loss. Nothing you did caused your m/c. I believe if they are meant to stick they will. with my 2nd son, i started spotting at 8 weeks, i panicked as it had taken 3 years to conceive him, quit my job and took it easy. we have been ttc a third child since he was about twelve months old (1998) and finally fell pg in Oct 07 (also have pcos). At 8 weeks I again started to spot, told myself it was the same, kept working, as i decided not to panic this time, just to take it easy (i was lucky enough to have my 15yo son to help me with my work - self employed), i decided to drive the following day, even though i was still spotting, i just thought i would be fine, it's like last time! I started to bleed a litle heavier and went to the local hospital in the arvo, after waiting for about 3 hours, spent another couple of hours on a trolley, and finally an ultrasound which showed my baby with a heartbeat, only it was the size of a 6wo not the 8weeks it should have been. sent home with the advice that they didn't know which way i would go, some carry to term others will m/c. Went straight to bed, stayed in bed the next day (should have been visiting with my dad for his 80th birthday) and woke up sunday morning with back pain and heavy bleeding, by the time i arrived back at the hospital (a two min drive), i had miscarried. I know nothing i could have done would have stopped the m/c and now we're back to ttc (i'm too old for another 10 years - so we have given ourselves 12months).

I love what your mother wrote for you. It's lovely and shows how much she is thinking of you at this time.