Hi Natters
I am so sorry to hear about your loss..
What your mother wrote you was lovely, and so was the poem (and so true it is)

Some Drs say 6 months to wait before TTC because of the risk of comlpications after a m/c , D&C and the op you had. Take it month by month and see how you heal physicaly and emotionaly.

Your story is a little like mine as I also lost clots before I m/c and
my baby was stuck in my cervex also and it is very painful.
You did not do anything wrong and didn't cause the m/c by shopping, what probably caused it was the op for the cysts on your overies, so it is not your fault in any way. So please don't feel guilty!!!

Take Care
Chris