Please say the magic words ...

[Willow]

Aw hun, you sound so much like me...

I lost my baby at 12 weeks and it totally devastated me. But I don't think there are any magic words, I wish there were. It's almost two years since we lost our baby and I'm still grieving, especially after the recent birth of our son.

I will always be this child's mother in my heart, and I know I will always think of this little one that couldn't be with me. I have chosen a unisex name, nothing too fancy, just right for someone who will never be bigger than a bean. I am going to have a tattoo for this little one, a permanent reminder on my body of the child that couldn't be with me.

I have done or am planning to do the exact same things. I have named my baby (but haven't told anyone out loud). I am planning a tattoo but have decided to wait until I finish b'feeding my son.

Just don't give up hope. After losing our baby I was in all sorts of trouble, had to have multiple surgeries and IVF and we still got there in the end! Our beautiful boy is a miracle that I am grateful for every day but we can never replace the baby we lost.

I'd encourage you to keep posting here, it's the only thing that saved my sanity in those early months. The women here are wonderful.