I had at least five miscarrages between baby number one and baby number two. You do have to give yourself time to grieve. Regardless if you had already prepared for the baby or not it's just the fact that you lost a baby. Our society aborts babies at that stage so it's no wonder that others cannot feel any sympathy for your loss. Just stay away from people like that if possible and don't feel bad about the need to mourn for your child. I cried for days after each one of my lossed and even now after I have had three children I still feel sad about those who didn't make it. It is important to understand that normally when we miscarry it is for a reason. Something must not have been going right and we have to rest in the thought that this was the best thing for our baby. The Bible tells us that God knows us even as we are in the womb. This tells me that he knew my babies and they are with him now, so I know that when I get to heaven I will have five more perfect children waiting for me