Tina - i'm so sorry to hear of your angel baby and the predicament you find yourself in with your SIL's pregnancy. it's hard enought dealing with loss at any time, but dealing with your own grief when someone in your close "circle" bears a constant reminder for you just makes it all the harder

i don't believe you're "obsessed with everything baby" as people have told you - in all honesty, i think the people who've said that to you are insensitive and need to really take a good hard look at themselves and the kind of people they are! you've lost something precious to you. simply put. have they never lost a loved one? grieved someone they loved and had a bond with?

losing an angel baby is NOT something you can just "get over" - there is no set time frame to deal with your grief. your loss will be a part of you for your entire life - the same as losing a parent or sibling - it impacts WHO you are and HOW you interact with others - it truly changes you. don't feel like you need to just get over it and move on. obviously, right now, your grief is still very strong and you know in your own heart that you're not ready to try again just yet - and only YOU will know when you're ready to try again. take this time to come to terms with what you have been through, and also address the fears you have about trying again. i would suggest perhaps talking to someone about what you're feeling - SANDS or beyond blue might be able to offer some help - i went to a psychologist i was able to access through work, and talk out my issues. it helped a massive amount...

as for your SIL - i don't know how close you are - so i can only suggest that, if you're close, make an opportunity to talk to her about how you're feeling. explain that it's nothing to do with making things uncomfortable for her, but that you're struggling following your loss - that you're happy for her, and with her every happiness - but that you might withdraw a little as her pregnancy progresses as a way of protecting your own heart

huge hugs hun - hoping you're able to start moving forward in the near future, and that you have a very short and successful TTC journey in the near future

take care hun

BG