I too am so sorry for you loss and know where you are coming from. With all three of my angels there has been one of my friends that was due around the same time. All four of these children (one set of twins) are a constant reminder of what might have been. As has been said you never get over it but you do get better at coping with it. Only you will know when the time is right to try again. You must take care of you and grieve in whatever way you need.
You will find everyone here really supportive and please know that there are many of us that have been where you are now.
thanks girls for all your feedback. Its nice to know that there are others out there that know how i feel. I have just moved to Melbourne, and i dont know a single person here, so its making it even harder for me because i have no one to talk to, and i feel so alone.
i really pray that we get PG again soon, as i feel that this is the only way that i will start to feel better...fingers crossed
tina - there are threads dedicated to people in victoria where you might be able to find people in your area. i know there are lots of ladies in Melbourne. feel free to post in the vic threads and maybe see if you can find some people to talk to that are local to you - if they can't actually meet up with you, they might know of activities in your area that you can get involved in...
it WILL take time to find a place where you're comfortable - you've been through a traumatic experience hun - always remember there are ladies on BB that you can talk to any time....
Oh Tina, the pain you feel is etched in the hearts of many women and it is a pain you cannot describe to someone who hasnt been there.
After my first miscarriage i found a huge amount of support and encouragement from a group called SANDS. I would sit in the nursery for hours just holding clothes i had bought for the baby and i wouldnt leave, my DH had to literally drag me out of there. I found it hard to talk to people, especially if they had not experienced the pain i was feeling. I also had to deal with people who didnt see my loss as anything overly sad because to them it wasnt a real baby yet.
It took many months before i could walk down the street without crying everytime i saw a pregnant woman or baby.
Today is the due date of my second angel baby and i hope you dont mind but by talking to other people and maybe helping them abit, im dulling the ache i feel in my heart today.
Its such a hard journey to travel, and everyone deals differently with their loss. I have managed to live with a pregnant girl for the past few months without it causing me too much grief, even though i only lost my second angel last July, but i think its because i have grown from the experience of my first loss, and i have coped much better this time.
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