I wish I could tell you that you'll be better really soon, but you probably won't hun. It's been nearly 2 years since I lost my baby, I've had another baby since and I'm still not 'over it'. In fact, since having my DS I've found a lot of the grief has come back to the surface and I'm actually now in counselling to help me deal with it and the impact it's had on my parenting.
Having someone so close to you who's pregnancy you would have shared makes it almost impossible not to think about it. I can tell you though that while the remainder of her pregnancy will be VERY hard, once her baby is born and your own due date passes, at least the 'I would be 20 weeks', 'I would be 32 weeks', 'my baby would be due next week' thoughts will stop and in a way it gave me some closure.
If you feel like your grief is consuming most of your life, I would strongly suggest some counselling. I really, really wish I'd done it at the time and not left it until now to get some help in dealing with my feelings of loss. I ended up a bit of a mess, very depressed and started isolating myself from the people in my life that were most important. It was a really awful time in my life and I wish I'd just asked for some help.
I would also encourage you to come here to BB and talk as much as you need - the girls here really helped me keep my head above water when I felt like I couldn't talk to anyone else.
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