Are you adopting a child to fill your needs, or to fill the needs of the child???

From an adoptee standpoint, it should be about the child's needs and welfare - not fixing the hole left by being unable to have your own biological children.

My questions to you are:

What is life like FOR an adopted child/children? Obviously losing their roots and biological parents, in whatever circumstances will be painful for the child. Can you commit to helping them heal and loving them unconditionally? It is most definitely felt by a child, and especially one which has been abandoned before.
Does the age you adopt matter? Why?

If you dont think it will be as rewarding, don't adopt. Full commitment and unconditional love is required, if you want to have a good relationship with your adopted child.

Good luck with your decision.

btw.. I am 35, and have met my biological family recently. Its also important that you will support your child if they wish to do this, and being able to discuss their biological history openly without shame or guilt. Happy to answer q's if you have any.