I have not personally adopted, but I have 3 friends (couples) all of whom have adopted, their cases are different in the fact that they have all adopted a relative of sorts...
My husband is Balinese & it is very important in Balinese culture to have children, it's kind of like what they totally & utterly live for...
Any gender is welcomed..
We tend to associate with a number of mixed marriages..
Over the years we have gotten to know a number of Balinese/Aussie mixed couples that were going through IVF or similar, without succes...
As it is so important to them to have a family they all were offered children from within their families (the Balinese member's of the 3 couples)
So they all (at different times) had moved back to Bali where one of their siblings would have a chil & hand it over to them at birth...
They had to remain (both partners of the couple) in Indonesia for a minimum of 12 months, they then applied for visas & brough the chil home.
One couple now have 2 children (7 & 4) whom are infact their nieces, but they call them Mum & Dad etc & are very normal, well adjusted & 100% loved & spoilt children, but very happy & it is a joy to see them as a family..
Another couple have a 5 yr old son now & he is also normal, he calls them Mum & Dad too & doesnt mind being an only child..
The other couple have only been home 8 months & their daughter is about 2, she is adorable & also very happy & much loved...
If you have the love to give I believe any child can thrive & become 100% yours!
As all these kids above are related in some form to 1 of the parents & have been with them from birth (including 2 actually being breastfed by the adoptive Mother!) They will get to see their Bio family on trips back to bali & they also get to learn about their culture..
But I truly believe a child without love is a sad & lost/lonely child...
A child given love from anyone will be3come everything he/she has dreamt of!!!
I would say go for it, you sound like you have so much to give & offer a child or 2...
Would you look at a child from overseas?
I personally believe it can be as rewarding as having your own flesh & blood....
If I could not have my own children, I would have done it & still might do it in the future...
My hubby has 2 adopted sibling (he has 5 biological siblings too) but 2 babies were left orrphaned in his Mothers village so she took them in, thyey rae treated the same, hubby & I pay for their schooling as we can afford to help out & once we head back to bali to live, I will be first to put my hand up if any chilfdren need love, food & a roof....
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