Hi Dazed.. go for it!

I have a friend in the USA who's just adopted a baby girl from Guatamala (sorry if wrong spelling) but the paperwork is still going through and she won't be brining her home to the US until she will be about 6 months old. All she can do now is communicate with foster mum and her and her DH have been down there once to meet the baby and do the bottle feeding thing during the weekend they were there.

Go for adoption if IVF just isn't working for you.

I'm also considering adopting child number 2 mainly because I have med conditions and this pregnancy has been difficult for me - I couldn't go through it again. I've lost money on having time off work without pay and my DH earns a modest income. My DH is the only boy in the family and I was told on Xmas day by my MIL that if this one's a girl I will HAVE TO GO BACK!. Now we know it is a girl. Nothing would please me more to have another but there is no guarantee it won't put me in an early grave next time and I'll be 36 next month so no guarantee of having a baby without downs syndrome. Also no guarantee we wouldn't have another girl! However I would not love a baby with this condition any less - it would be hard on me though as I'm not healthy.

Well am new to the adoption forum so I'll keep browsing posts. Maybe we'll just spoil our child rotten and she'll become such a monster that everyone will wish we didn't have one (joking here! ) Good luck with your adoption procedures and don't hesitate to do it!