Hi Dazed,

Well I have a fair idea of what you're going through right now. My DH and I have been trying for over 5 years and have lost 4 little ones in the past year (IVF).

I totally understand the hold that IVF can have over your life and the feeling that at some time you just wish your life could have a very different focus.

We have recently been looking into adoption - well specifically foster care initially - and I am sure it will be an option for us at some stage. The main problem we faced was that to adopt - well actually to even apply to adopt - you must have ceased all fertility treatment entirely and not had any for at least 12 months (well this is what I have been told by DOCS and Barnardos). At this point I still hold hopes and am not prepared to completely stop yet.

I found this to be the hardest part to come to terms with - I asked DOCS, well what happens if someone falls pregnant naturally while waiting to adopt or once they do - they tell me that is entirely different.

I think looking into adoption as an option may well be the answer - but Im not sure for us just yet. If you are at that point, then I say GO FOR IT! You sound as though you will both make wonderful parents - I mean anyone who puts themselves through all this stuff just to have a child has to be likely to put in just as much of themselves as a parents, right?!

Good Luck and I honestly do hope it all works out for you...


Keen