This baby will be our third girl and sheesh it just gets harder every time. Dh had a name picked out for the first one but because the pregnancy ran into trouble we decided on a different name and I chose both her first and middle name as I wanted something strong for her.
Of course Dh then decided early in the piece that DD would have the "original" name so I chose the middle name.
THIS baby though goodness the fights we had over this one all my names were too "out there" and all of Dh's choices were too ordinary. In the end I put forward a name to which Tummybunny seemed to respond to. I told him not to discuss it straight away and to just think about it because I loved it.
I didn't mention it again then about 5 weeks later he came and said he was worried about what she would be nicknamed but I assured him the nickname he was worried about wouldn't be an issue as she was a girl.
We are 4 weeks out from our due date and DH has JUST started referring to her by the name and we both adore it.
SO,
I would put a list of your top 5 names on the fridge - get him to do the same. Include the middle name and surname and tell him to read the list every time he goes to the fridge (you do the same) and see what grows the most on you. If you have still not decided by the time the baby comes, take both lists into the hossy and see what baby looks like.
We struggle too. You'd think when you were up to your 3rd go at it something would be easier but its not. I usually get quite a long list early on and then gradually cross things off - I'll find a name I really like that day/week but another month and I'm like meh. Then I give the list to DH and get him to tell me which ones he likes. I'm always told there's basically nothing. What really annoys me though is that while he poo poos all my names, he never contributes any suggestions. Makes it kinda hard!
I did this to DH - I hated all his girl names. But he reckoned most of mine sounded like "adult" film stars.
So we just kept on going. "What do you think of *nice name*?" "No." (I needed justification for saying no to his, so we went with one of his that I didn't hate for a while until he decided he liked an old one of mine better that he wasn't over keen on at first.)
For Liebs, took us about 5 minutes to pick his name. I had a list of about 10 boys names. My favourites were out. But I like his name, as does DH. Middle names - DH picked out of two of mine, then had near free pick of the other.
However, for a girl version of Liebs - we went through hundreds of names. Hours and hours of him saying "nah." Took us 6 hours and we had three names DH didn't hate. Of those, one had to be a long version and he hated ALL the long versions, so was out. Another was a bit "meh" for us both, although we like it. The final one was the one DH changed his mind about, then again a few months later, so the one we went with.
But it was hard. Example - DH loved Sophie, but I hate it. I wouldn't mind Sophia (and call her Phia). DH hated Sophia - so why can't we have Sophie? Because I hate it, I really don't like the accent my mother's family have as they'd say "Serh-fy". And "So-fee" is OK, but not "Serh-fy". But the only two names DH came up with were Sophie and Tamsin. Those were the only ones he would consider once I made him pick some for quite a while.
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