Then you have the extreme of my MIL who put her kids away in the laundry and just let them "cry it out"! And shes been insisting this is what I need to do!(I don't think so) Anyway as said there is a whole spectrum of the settling world. Its already been pointed out the differences between controlled crying and comforted sleeping. Mothers need to follow their instincts rather than what people tell us to do. I know I get so much conflicting advice I just go with what suits me and my baby. Every baby and situation is different so just go with what feels right at the time.