Controlled Crying - needs defining?

[Debbie Lee]

Emily -

I let Charlie grizzle when he goes to bed - because he hates being away from the fun stuff! but I can definitley tell the difference between a 'I don't want to go to bed' grizzle and a 'I'm really upset and scared' cry

Well then I'd say you are not using controlled crying really at all. It's something that you and Charlie have negotiated through you listening to him... not trying to control him. You have gone with what works for you... and tho some elements might be similar to controlled crying, I personally don't think it's anywhere near it.

'each baby is different, go with what works for you' - but then in the next breath they say - 'unless it's controlled crying or feeding solids before 6 months old - then all babies are the same and you shouldn't do it.'

I do think that the arguments that people put forward against these are far more complex and varied. I don't think "everyone" on this site agrees 100 percent on these issues at all! We all vary in our stance so it's not fair to lump everyone into the one pile.