Controlled Crying - needs defining?

[nickel]

Thanks again everyone this has been a really great thread for me - and yes it is a gentle parenting site which is why I wanted to clarify the whole "controlled crying" definition so I didn't feel defensive!! :wink:
thanx for your comments Fraser, I think it's been watered down too as this thread has clarified for me.

I have always said that I am pro controlled crying until I actually read the routines that Caro posted. I think I'll just say form now on that I'm pro-listening to your kid!!
Just a thought though, I was interested to see the reaction to my first post, but no-one was 'offended' by Caro's statements of strength. Hence Kelly's comment re. the theming of the site I suppose! And the important need to hear from everyone's point of view from all along the scale of parenting types, and not being judgemental or prescriptive. (Caro I was not offended by your statements, and appreciated your candour and the information you provided. I think it really added to the discussion, and thanx for posting)

I appreciate your comments too Cailin, and others because although this is a "gentle parenting" themed site, lets face it there is no where else on the whole web that is like bellybelly so everyone wants to come here and find help and encouragement. I need alternatives as there is simply no way at this stage of my life being who I am, that I could embrace all of the gentle parenting techniques to their full extent, so I love hearing from mummies ALL along the scale (I dont' think you have to be only gentle or tough or unattached or whatever).

Controlled crying/sleep training etc (such emotive phrases!) and Bf and FF are such emotional issues for some mummies, which is why it feels like the attacking/overwhelming. I still think there is a place for discussion of these things in a intelligent non-offensive exploratory fashion which I think we have mostly done here? yes? (good on us)
That said I think the moderators do a GREAT job of keeping people on track and trying to prevent flaming/negative stuff.