I agree Nickel - I think the term controlled crying has been diluted into something else - I let Charlie grizzle when he goes to bed - because he hates being away from the fun stuff! but I can definitley tell the difference between a 'I don't want to go to bed' grizzle and a 'I'm really upset and scared' cry - I couldn't tell the difference when he was really young and it was very exhausting - having said that I will only let him continuously grizzle for 10 minutes before going in for a chat and a stern word about going to sleep!

I find it a little difficult in here sometimes when on the one hand everyone is sayong to you - 'each baby is different, go with what works for you' - but then in the next breath they say - 'unless it's controlled crying or feeding solids before 6 months old - then all babies are the same and you shouldn't do it.'

I don't believe in letting your baby become hysterical and overwrought - but honestly - Charlie does play me! he knows the right sounds to make to get me to come running and then giggles when I get there! So where you may not want to call it manipulation - it's babyulation!!
Fraser, Cooper is the same! I will go in and then he just laughs at me!!!!!!!!! So frustrating.

Like now he is in his cot and he is grizzling. He's been grizzling for a while now. But not crying. So I just leave him for a while. Then I may go in to give him a pat etc. If he was really crying and sounded distressed I'd be in there in a flash and would probably cuddle him.

I don't think what I do is "control crying".