I just want to say a few things re. all the anti - controlled crying stuff.
I think it's important to say that I believe there is a difference between letting a baby calm down and controlled crying/training per se.

The whole theory of "controlled crying' is NEVER meant to apply to a baby younger than 6 weeks, and really shouldn't even be considered until a baby is at least 3 months old.

I think there is value in learning your baby's tired signs and responding to them, and recognising if your baby is overstimulated and acting accordingly.

Sometimes when put to bed my Ruby will cry for a LITTLE while if she is overstimulated and over tired. As an adult I get the same way. If held at this time and she won't bf - she tends to just keep being cranky as being held is too stimulating for her.

I just think situations like this should be clarified for first time mums who may think that if their baby cries for 30seconds to 2 minutes when put to bed, that they are bad mothers and they are doing controlled crying. I would encourage all mothers to LISTEN to their child's cries. You CAN tell the difference between upset babies who are saying "where are you mum? I'm upset" to babies who are saying "don't know what I want, just feeling out of sorts" and who are calming down. Believe in yourself and listen to and watch for your babies cues. I suppose this is really the hard part hey?

I probably should say that I have never had to "walk the halls" at night with either of my children crying whatever their age (unless teething or sick) so I guess I'm a bit inexperienced in that regard. I just don't think 2 minutes of crying or even 10 minutes of whinging (ie. squawk for 30seconds, quiet for 2 minutes say) is controlled crying- what do others think?