:-k I must admit having the longer gap (nt necessarily by choice) between my girls is a blessing. Maddison understands that while Indah is awake, grizzling, hungry, etc that I am pretty busy, but she also knows that if I am doing housework & Indah wakes up that she can entertain/sing to her for a bit & 'help' by doing so til I can get Indah...
Whislt I am busy with Indah Maddy will read to us or she will happily go & play in her room, or just sit & talk... But whe Indah is asleep or playing on floor etc, Maddy & I will do stuff.

Maddy loves Indah & changes nappies or bounces her in her bouncer, sings to her, cuddles her, holds her hands & makes faces etc... I know they are gonna adore each other as they grow up & it's gorgeous to watch..

I never wonderd if I could love another child, I desperately wanted more & I knew I had more love to give & I had explained to Maddy when we were pregnant that love never runs out, you just get more love, I even explained it like the cake story your DH used Dach... She accepted that & understands that I might be busier now, but I still love her & I love Indah...

As for the sleep deprivation etc, I think it's easier really, because you go into it knowing your baby will grow so fast so you savour all those moments with the new baby that went past so quick with the first.. I have found having Indah much less daunting & I am a more relaxed Mum, which is great!

I am keen to start trying for #3 mid this year... Dh just needs convincing!!!

I did not LOVE childbirth, the pain etc, but I am not scared of it either, so I was happy to finally have it start & went in to hospital happy to be in labour...

Sarah I have heard all your worries from friends, it's totally natural.... Good Luck with your decision, as with Maddy, we adore Indah & wouldnt give her back for the world!!!!