Clarrie, I SO know what you are going through.

There are 6 mums and myself at our mothers group, and for months I felt exactly the same. There were mornings when I woke up the day of mothers group, and I just really didn't want to go, due to be so tired from waking up during the night, and also just like you , was dreading the 'oh, you poor thing' and 'our baby sleeps from 7 to 7am without waking at all' episodes that I heard every week. They never intentially went out of their way to make you feel bad, but throw in sleep deprivation along with a clingy baby who isn't getting enough sleep also, and you soon get tired of hearing how wonderful everyones babies sleep, except your own. And like you, I was also left feeling like my baby wasn't 'good'.

Part of the reason I wanted to give my thoughts on this was to let people out there who are breastfeeding know, that it is perfectly normal for their babies to wake up in the night. I really wished someone had said to me, 'just relax, Cooper is normal, and he will eventually sleep through the night'. But SO many people said, 'you have to teach them' or 'let him cry' or 'what are you doing that makes him wake up?' eg. routine etc etc. (Can I add also Mads, that I also wonder perhaps whether he is sleeping better due to our modified C/C also. We will never know though...)

Every baby IS different, but I just would love to let people know that there is a chance that their baby will also sleep better in time, and that perhaps it actually isn't a behavioural thing. Maybe this is just 'natural'.

Liz, gotta say I love your attitude. What a positive way of thinking. I must say your attitude on it all must surely be beneficial to little Tallon. Keep it up!

Heidi, I hope also for your sake that James does start to sleep through the night. Sounds very hard on you all, but you also have a good way of thinking like Liz, and is admirable to hear that you can be in such good spirit depsite being so sleep deprived!!

BTW, they say parenthood isn't rocket science, but I sometimes feel like its way more confusing than that! (but so much more rewarding)