I love to hear about other babies who aren't sleeping through as well - in fact, I'm guilty of asking other mums about their baby's sleep.

The key for me is all about offering advice. If I get advice, judgement or an opinion that I don't need, I've taken to saying "thanks, but I wasn't really looking for advice". That may make me a rude cow but I don't care.

The whole "good baby" thing is such a touchy issue for me, because not only does Bonnie not sleep she is also quite wriggly and feisty. So I often get unsolicited comments from people that imply that she isn't good.

The comments that I most appreciate from people are those that breezily acknowledge that it's all a bit of a challenge and will get much better one day. Bonnie was chucking a tantrum in public today and a nearby mum smiled at me and said, "oh mine used to scream just like that" - for some reason it just made me feel so much better, there was no judgement or anything, just someone telling me that they'd been through the same thing.