Clarrie, when I feed my DS in bed lying down on my side I tuck the arm that is under me up under a pillow under my head... kinda curled up...does that make sense? I usually sleep that way anyhow, even when I'm not feeding. The only thing that makes me a bit uncomfy is having the doona off my shoulder, especially now that it's getting cold. When DS finishes feeding he rolls over and goes to sleep... sometimes i carry him back to bed, other times I'm happy just to leave him there Love what you were told about a normal baby needing to feed throughout the night too!