hmm.. it is a tough one. As a parent I would want the carer to respect our wishes, for eg. with regard to crying it out.. as in... NOT allowed. So I guess if they express certain wishes, they should be respected.

But it's hard for me to agree with not cuddling a bub So I dunno. They obviously trust you to care for bub on such a fulltime basis... they must trust your instincts as well. I think as a parent I would appreciate that no one else would parent exactly the same as me anyway, so whilst I might have a gripe here and there about how they've done a few things, deep down it wouldn't worry me too much if I trusted them. Bub will be unsettled to some extent anyway if there is a bit of chopping and changing... and in my books, that needs lots of cuddles... maybe use that as your excuse hehe