another big thing that I did not realise about becoming a mother was that I would lose my 'sense of self' for a long time
Ambah I think that is what is behind my career crisis ATM - a GF said that BF, getting pg, stopping BF and now being 24 weeks pg will would seriously mess with my career mojo, but I think it goes far beyond hormones. I didn't mind being in baby-world when Flynnn was little and I was home full time, but as soon as I started getting back into the swing of work and was lucky enough to fall pg when we planned I started resenting the pull back into that world again. I didn't resent the baby that was to come or even how I would feel once I was there, but knowing that I was just getting a taste of "me" back and having to leave it all again was a real up-and-down experience.