When was your bub's first overnight stay??....

**Beach Mama** · April 3rd, 2008, 07:50 PM

at someone else's house??

My mum and dad are desperate to have Iz overnight and on Saturday night we have a friends gig to go to, and mum thinks its a great chance for us to have a night out, a decent sleep in for the first time in nealry 12 mths and then pick her up in the morning after we go out for brunch together...but DH and I aren't so sure!

DH is worse than me - Izzy goes to mum and dads while IM at work so is very familiar with her cot there etc..... she sleeps from 7-630 without stirring each night so Im not worried about that, its more that we won't cope!!

Time to cut the apron strings?

DH is worried he will miss her too much but as I keep saying it really is only for a few hours on the Sunday morning before we pick her up... we will take her there and put her to bed ourselves that night!

So just wanted to know when you had your first bubby free night!!!??????

**New Dawn** · April 3rd, 2008, 08:08 PM

for us it was around the 12 mth mark aswell we call mum about 10 time before she told us that all is fine and not to call again she will call us if she needed to ( she didnt ) but dont worry it will get better but dont expect that sleep in you will more than likely still wake up and then wonder what would seem to early to go pick her up...

Enchanted · April 3rd, 2008, 08:09 PM

I think you guys should go for it!!! It is so hard to leave them at the start but you'll have a great time once you get out

We first left Oscar with my Mum overnight when he was 4 months as we had a wedding to go to. It was tough but we had a great time being able to relax and not worry about feeds, nappies etc. It will be even harder to do it when your gorgeous gumnut comes along hun. So make the most of it while you can.

DoubleK · April 3rd, 2008, 08:09 PM

Krystal stayed with the PIL on new years eve.. it wasnt planned, but they watched her for a few hours, then said she is welcomed to stay. she was 18 months old, and i missed her like crazy! but i did enjoy the full night sleep (which she will only do, once a month maybe) but i was so ready to go pick her up on new years day!!

Ellibam · April 3rd, 2008, 08:16 PM

makon is 2.5 and still hasnt had a sleep over..... one day i will cut the strings( maybe when hes off for his honey moon!)

**Olive** · April 3rd, 2008, 08:48 PM

sophie has never had a sleep over!!

**Jas** · April 3rd, 2008, 08:56 PM

No sleepovers her yet either but I agree I think you should go for it!

**sangie** · April 3rd, 2008, 09:00 PM

We haven't left Ellie overnight yet - even though we have had plenty of offers and I know her grandparents are dying to have her stay over!

But you guys should go for it Tan, especially seeing as gumnut will be here before you know it! I bet you will go and pick her up super early anyway

**Cherie** · April 3rd, 2008, 09:04 PM

No overnight stays here either, although Jambin isn't quite 12 months yet. He's a bit of a mummy's boy though, and doesn't like being away from me at all, so I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving him with anyone overnight. I might feel differently if they looked after him in our house, but I'm not sure.

**Nadine216** · April 3rd, 2008, 09:04 PM

DD was three months. She was home for just over two months and after not sleeping for what felt like 90% of the time, we droped her at my mom's house and went to catch a movie and had a lovely romatic dinner and SLEPT THROUGH!!!!!

we were up before daybreak, just eager as hell to go pick her up. But we had the most glorious night's sleep.

Go for it, your mom raised you, and surely you can trust her with your most precious bundle for one night

ENJOY the sleep!!!!

**Ozziehoffy** · April 4th, 2008, 05:51 PM

makon is 2.5 and still hasnt had a sleep over..... one day i will cut the strings( maybe when hes off for his honey moon!)

PMSL

I hear ya!! Oskar still sleeps in our room and also hasn't had a sleepover yet and no plans for it to happen soon either.

**Beach Mama** · April 4th, 2008, 05:59 PM

Well we have decided that we are going to leave her at mums for the night tomorrow - eeeeeeekk!
Will let you all know how she goes.... or should I say, how we go!!!
Thanks everyone!

**Nai** · April 4th, 2008, 06:03 PM

DP and I both got the flu really badly last July and we were unable to move so my mum took DD for 2 nights then. It wasn't planned but it was cetainly necessary!! We weren't even able to enjoy our childfree time we were so sick

**nic** · April 4th, 2008, 06:08 PM

Oh Tan, it's hard isn't it. DD had her first sleep over when she was about 18 months old. We had a wedding to travel too, children not invited etc.. so left her with my parents which was only half an hour from where we were staying.
It was so hard for both of us, we were wondering if she was ok, were my mum and dad ok? We left early the next morning to get back to her.
Even now, DD is 8, and when we leave her to do a day trip away shopping and MIL picks her up from school, we still worry! DH, I think is worse than me, he walks around all the toys/games and finds something that he thinks she will just love. It so cute that he misses her as much as I. We get in the car and it's so quiet, we actually have to stop and remember that we haven't left her behind LOL. Ok, enough babble from me.

I say go for it. oops, just noticed you posted you are doing it! Good on you. Hope you have a great night out and don't worry too much

Nic

**mrsmac** · April 4th, 2008, 06:18 PM

Riley still hasn't stayed anywhere overnight and he is nearly 2, but that is partly cause my mum died 6 years ago and he obviously won't ever stay with her like his sisters did. Jess was about 2 I guess and Erin probably a bit younger but that was only with my mum no one else!

***Ang*** · April 4th, 2008, 06:26 PM

Good on you for deciding to go! Hope you have a great time and a sleep in too.

We left DD for the first time when she was 4 weeks old - we had a wedding to go to, 3 weeks later we had another one so she was left with my mum twice before she was 2 months old! She survived and so did we, altho my boobs almost didnt depsite expressing lots even in the carpark at the wedding receptions!

**{sarah}** · April 4th, 2008, 06:38 PM

Gosh I think Zander was about 6 weeks old when he had his first sleep over! He had bad reflux & didn't sleep more than an hour at a time for the first six months of his life so we needed it! Having said that, my parents are next door so it's not like h was far away.

**Tobily** · April 4th, 2008, 07:37 PM

DD was about 2, and DS hasn't yet.
But it's NOT because I don't want to!

My mother doesn't live close to us, she took DD for 2 days about a year ago because we had to go to a funeral out west and we couldn't bear the thought of driving 12 hours in two days with a 2yo. It was fine.
If my mum lived near us I'd have no problem.
If your little one is used to your mum's house and used to her bed there I'd go for it. The first time is probably the hardest but don't feel guilty, you guys deserve a break and some couple time