Thanks. It seems that it's pretty black and white - just see her without kids. Guess I was hoping there was a shade of grey in there I'd missed. Anyone with a little person who can be the 'challenging' one? How would you want a friend to approach it?

Really not sure how to go about broaching it with her. I'm tempted to just put it as 'I want to get to talk to you which is easier without my kids'.