DF would get up, get DD and bring her in for a feed, settle her and change her and all that stuff. We would just both do it-if your breast feeding then that is the ONLY thing she cant do, There are plenty of things that she can! I think your partner should be helping more for sure. There is no reason why she cant bring bub in to you for a feed or settle her. As for the 'she doesnt like me' comment, just my opinion here so i hope i dont offend, but i would be p!ssed off at that one, its a cop out. If she doesnt put the effort into learning to settle her now, it will make it harder for her to do it in the future and that just means that you will always be the one that has to do it.

Also i dont think she because a partner works (and you would think most do) that its a reason for them not to help, especially when bub is new and everything is harder.

Have you tried talking to her and explaining that you need her to help more?