Hi hon, I am feeling much the same way about becoming financially independent so that I don't feel like I have to stay. If I were to separate from dh I would be in a crappy situation and miss out on seeing ds every day as I'm currently lucky enough to be a SAHM. I am currently reading a book called Rich Woman by Kim Kioyosaki. She is the wife of Robert Kiyosaki, the author of Rich Dad Poor Dad. It's very empowering and I am going to take steps to make sure I have enough money to stay or go. Not sure how long it will take but it feels good knowing that I'm doing something. Hope it all works out.