I totally get where you are coming from. We made a decision that we didn't want visitors until 24 hours after DS was born. Our Doula actually suggested it because it is such a special and important time for us to get to know our little man. Our family were great, totally understood and respected the decision.

I can understand some people getting upset if you allow your family and not DH's but really it is a decision for you.

Don't forget, you can also get the midwifes to let people know that you aren't up for visitors if people do show up unannounced.

HTH
Spring xx