hhmmm I would be pretty unhappy with that too! After going through your labor you will be exhausted and need his help and support. Also I would be very suprised if the hospital kicks him out after visiting hours.

My DH stayed with me and DS the whole time we were in hospital and only went home to feed the cat. I had to have an emergency CS after a failed induction and there was no way I could've looked after DS by myself. I was so glad DH was there to change nappies, wrap him, settle him etc when I couldn't. I would've hated it if in those first few precious hours it was a midwife doing that not his parents.

I think in the end he won't go to poker. It can be hard for men to appreciate the significance of becoming a parent before it happens iykwim. Because they don't experience the pregnancy themselves, for some it only really sinks in when the event happens. None the less, I also would be very unhappy at even the suggestion of going to play poker.

I'm sure if you sit down with him and tell him how you feel he will be able to get a better understanding of what will be needed and expected from him.