wow thanks everyone, gives me so much to think about! Im actually thinking of maybe having my mum come up now and sit with DD (unless its night) til i give birth then have her come in for first cuddles The reason I didnt want my DD there was she gets very upset when I leave her. I had an ultrasound and she was nearly in tears thinking I was in pain and wanted to sit with me. But at least now with all these ideas I have a few months to decide! So many different perspectives