Personally hun I would be asking for a later c/s, ie. when you are overdue. this way you still have the choice right up to the date of your scheduled C/S. Do some perineal massage to help your body stretch. and if you use lubricant or olive oil it softens the skin and muscle and allos a LOT more stretch. I tore with my 1st and only grazed with my second but my second was much more rushed.

I think the majority of your issues were caused by the induction, which takes you from 0-100 in a matter of minutes, whereas if you go into labour naturally it is much less intense. you can ask for regular monitoring to make sure everything is OK.

Dont feel guilty hun, the prize is the baby, and the birth is just the way to meet the baby, it doesn't matter which way it comes out, as long as you are happy and healthy.

Think and talk about your options with DH, maybe look into a birth debrief, and most of all, do what you feel is best for you and your family. You are the ONLY one that can make that decision and everyone will respect your choice.