Hey.. Im with baby luv. Breastfeeding was like this for me too, especially the first two weeks. My nipples had to literally change shape before he got the hang of the feeding.. and they did eventually with all the practice. Just hang in there, because it will get easier. The first two weeks are definitely the hardest, and I think it only starts to feel more natural and easy after about six weeks. People say that breastfeeding is natural for baby and its Mum that has to learn, but I really feel that my bubs had to learn how to do it, and it took time. He would pull on and off the breast all the time and was constantnyl wanting to feed for the first five weeks - I think that he was trying to build my milk supply actually, looking back at it now. Also - another reason why bubs can pull on and off is reflux. Our little boy had reflux quite bad to start, it is just getting better now. Have you had your baby checked by the GP for anything like this?.. What I found really helped us (and I think can also help with a fast let down) is reclinig myself back and laying him up across my tummy so that he wouldnt get as much milk as quick, and also lying next to him to feed which was a bit tricky to get the hang of, but really worked once we started it..
good luck, i am sure with persistence, your bubs will get it. I was discharged from hospital with my bubs being completely formula fed, and I had a really poor milk supply, bubs had reflux... and his patterns sounded very similar to your baby's. Now because there was no way I was going to resort to formula feeding and I was going to persist until we got it... my bubs is breastfeeding just fine, we are 11wks down the track.. Just dont give up, you are not being mean at all.. as they say, 'breast is best!!'... my bubs is a good example of how things can turn around.