I am having an elective Caesar at 38 weeks and I HAVEN'T been through what you have, hugs.

I couldn't care less what people think of my decision, it's not something that was taken lightly and it was done in discussion with my ob after my failed induction with DD. I've already copped it from a mother at playgroup who told me it was obviously more convenient for me and She assumed it was too hard for me to try a vbac. This from a mother who didn't breastfeed for absolutely no good reason, did I judge her for that? No cos it wasn't my decision to make.

We are judged through our entire journey as a mother but I think you have to make a decision and take responsibility for that decision and to hell with what anyone else thinks. Don't defend yourself, why should you? You have absolutely no reason to.

Fwiw, I loved my Caesar and I hope you will too hon!