Could it be just a first baby thing for some? It is just a huge change, I think to myself, one minute I was pregnant and it is all about me and then all of a sudden it is all about the baby, who is now your fulltime job. Sounds selfish, but that is how I felt with my first.

I had a 12 hour labour from my waters breaking by themselves at 38 weeks, 8 hours of contractions and vaginal birth so I wouldn't say traumatic, with my son. But I didn't feel bonded with him, and now that I have had my second child, I can see the difference even more. I just seem to care more about her now than I did with him when he was a baby.

My Mum says it is because she didn't see me touch my belly much when I was pregnant with my son, but I did with my daughter. I think it is just because you don't realise that baby in you becomes a little person until you see them grow up a bit.

Please, please be gentle with yourself. You will get used to being a Mum and love it, what your feeling now doesn't mean you aren't a good Mum, you're just adjusting. Sleep deprivation never helps put things in perspective either.

GL.