Danni,

I am so sorry that you feel so much disappointment. I had an emergency c-sect and some of what you have listed above, happened to me. I was in a private hospital and had an OBS, so perhaps some of what you have listed is standard procedure for hospitals in general? (I didn't have a birth plan at all and was happy to make decisions as the need arose, so a very different view on what you wanted with the birth of Mason)
I have listed below the same occurences in our c-sects.
*The screen was up - I was not asked either way but wouldn't have wanted it dropped
*I was unable to wait before clamping the cord - Again I wasn't asked but didn't specifically want this.
* I was unable to hold my baby immediately after delivery - Same but I understood that the Paed wanted to check over bubs straight away and DH was with DD then, so I was ok with this.
* No skin-to-skin contact - until I was transferred into my room b/c bubs was with DH & Paeditrician.
* I wasn't alone in recovery a nurse was with me at all times. I am unsure if you meant alone with nobody or separated from your DH & Mason. If you were with nobody, then that is really terrible.
* I did ask if I could breasfeed DD in recovery and was assured I could but DD was with Paed & DH and I was only in recovery for a maximum of 20 minutes. I was a bit dissappointed about this.
I think you should have a chat to DH about this b/c he may have some issues too and if need be speak to a professional to further debrief.

Hugs to you Danni