rufalina - It's so easy for messages to be mixed when you're not standing in front of the person you're talking to! I was just worried that I had totally unintentionally said the wrong thing. I do have major baby brain atm so there's always a chance my posts are really confusing Your stories were great to read btw

I'm sorry to hear that you're suffering from some birth trauma. It's something I've had to try and get through from last time and I think it's something that will always be with us Mums. I guess it's now a part of who we are. For me, allowing myself to feel the emotions as they came up was a big part of my healing. I hope you are able to find peace soon

I'm all stocked up with super size pads! Might get a few extra thick ones though for the scar. Does the pad just stop the scar being bumped etc? Someone has suggested that firm fitting undies are good to help you feel 'held in'. What are you ladies thoughts on that?

Did any of you have problems with the air in your stomach after surgery? My bowels can be a bit temperamental and I'm a little worried about the abdominal pain after. I also had the horrible shoulder pains after I had my appendix removed as the air moved up. This was key-hole surgery though so not sure if that makes a difference?