Thanks everyone!

Emma - that really sucks that you ended up feeling out of control. And without knowing your personal circumstances I understand how hard it can be to go with your instincts when others are telling you not to

BG - great story! I'm hoping I'll recover well - I usually do but my VB was a bit of a mess. The Ob had a few issues when stitching me up and didn't do a very good job, which led to a whole new set of issues I'm no martyr so I'll be taking any pain relief I need. I figure no-ones' going to give me a medal for suffering I totally agree with you about women that have a good c/s experience not needing to discuss their birth at length. It's probably similar for VBs. Hopefully this thread will be helpful for ladies that are having an elective c/s and want to know about the positive experiences that can happen