i don't do as much craft with her as i should, but i made extra effort for xmas. I have to push myself, do prep and practise first.

Bilby's dad has had planning block for as long as i can remember, it often impacts on other people, including bilby and me, even though we are spilt up. Nothing that is said at mediation, about the importance of routine (e.g eating and sleeping routines) has any effect on him, it's water off a duck's back. We have had numerous health professionals say the same thing, bilby's dad will either nod or say yes, but not do it in practice. He will make her wait for lunch until 2pm then wonder why she's ratty - she has very poor appetite, if you miss her "window", she refuses to eat at all. Sometimes even if you DO catch her window, she will eat very little. He puts her in front of tv/movies on a big projection screen, in spite of being told how detrimental that is, to her and her desire to eat.

everything in his life, apart from work, seems to be chaotic. He has no ability to see how it effects others, even if it is pointed out to him. I have done that, out of love, out of frustration, out of being in debt due to his inactions on tax returns, out of anger - nothing has any effect. He refuses to co=operate about his will, his insurance, his super etc, so if he got hit by a bus tomorrow, bilby would get nothing, in fact, i think it would send ME bankrupt, as there would be no-one else to pay for his funeral but me. ANything to do with acting responsibly - acts like an ostrich.

we are meant to be working co-operatively, so that bilby has both of us as parents and gets as much stability as possible, clearly, it's not working. The day before xmas, his first day off, he chose to drive all over town, hand delivering cheques, that COULD have been mailed, to people who won't be able to deposit them in banks for days, INSTEAD of getting ready for xmas with his little girl. i just mean, having BASIC foodstuffs in the home.